But you don’t have to go through it all alone! I offer support during this hectic transitional time. I’m here to help you build a strong foundation for your marriage and give you the space to address challenging issues with your future spouse!

Muslim Premarital Counseling Sessions

Pre-marriage counseling is a relationship check-up. It’s “preventative medicine” for your Muslim marriage. It also makes a great engagement gift for a new Muslim couple (hint, hint, Moms, and Dads!). In your private premarital session, we’ll start with a research-based assessment used with over 4 million couples and end with a solid vision for your marriage.  

You want someone to tell it to you straight. You’re nervous about starting your new life as a wife/husband, and you want a strong marriage. But you don’t have time to do all the reading required to make you a master of your relationships on top of everything else you’re already doing.  
Life is full of enough surprises! Don’t let your marriage be one of them! 

As your premarital coach, I’ll calm your nerves about starting your new married life. I’ll also give you a Muslim marriage roadmap of actionable tools to help you get more out of your marriage every day!

Preparing for Your Pre-marriage Counseling Session

A pre-marital session is not you reviewing your rights as a Muslim couple; these are important, but only a small part of a pre-marital session. That isn’t where couples get stuck. Instead, we focus on building a strong understanding of yourself and each other.

Are you still contemplating a private pre-marriage session? Answer the following seven premarital counseling questions. Then book a private session with your spouse-to-be to discuss your responses.

How well do you know your partner? How well do you know yourself? 

Relationships are foremost about connection and communication between partners. This means that as much as you have to learn to know, understand, and gauge your partner, you also have to know yourself and your needs. The only way to communicate your needs effectively to your spouse is to have a strong sense of self-awareness. 

Spend some additional time in self-reflection in the months before your wedding. Ensure you learn as much as you can about yourself first, and then your partner. This way, you can build your relationship on a foundation of mutual love and respect.

Are you on the same page about having children?

Most Muslim couples want to have children. But you may disagree with the timing and expectations of pregnancy and child-rearing. Discuss cultural and personal preferences during your private Islamic premarital counseling session. Also, plan how to deal with family expectations or fertility treatments. Sometimes our family plan and timing doesn’t match Allah’s!

How will you handle your relationships with your families?

Set expectations from the beginning. In your premarital session, discuss where you will live and how often you will visit family. Plan how you will broach challenging discussions in your extended family relationships. 

What does spirituality mean to you?

While we’re all Muslims, being a practicing Muslim means different things to people. No partner should expect the other to be perfect (who is?!) Yet, there needs to be a mutual understanding as far as what type of worship you’ll practice in the home.

What does sex mean for both of you?

A couple’s sexual relationship will shift and change. Broach topics like past sexual assault or abuse, expected biological life changes, and more. In your private pre-marriage counseling session, discuss your sexual needs and expectations. This can be a difficult topic, so feel safe under the watchful eye of your premarital counselor. Setting realistic sexual expectations from the beginning. Discussing needs in advance can save a lot of disagreements, hurt, and headaches! 

How do you look at spending versus saving?

Have a financial literacy check-in during your pre-marriage session. Discuss your financial liabilities and goals. What are your future financial aspirations? Do you have plans in place to achieve those goals? Are you a spender or a saver? How might your personalities help (or hinder) each other? How can you put safeguards in place to protect your marriage’s financial health?

How will you resolve future conflicts?

All couples disagree sometimes. But in a healthy Muslim marriage, both parties use tools to agree (or agree to disagree, if needed!) Discuss what tools and resources you’ll use to resolve future conflicts.

Common Premarital Counseling Questions (FAQs)

• Who are you?
• Why should I come to you?
• Why is this important?
• Why should I spend on this?
• What results will I see?
• How can I use your services?
• Is it private?
• I’m ready! What should I do next?