The Power of A Strong Relationship
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ometimes we get stuck and see only what our spouse lacks. We start to lose sight of their good qualities. But focusing in on the bad and ignoring the good was not the way of our beloved Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him. He consistently demonstrated how to show love and appreciation to our spouses.
The Prophet said: “No believing man should hate a believing woman: if he dislikes one of her characteristics, he will like another.” [Ahmad and Al-Tirmidhi].
Remember, appreciation of spouses is a two-way street! When we don’t compliment and acknowledge the good our spouses do, we damage our relationship.
Need help with positive things to say to your spouse? Download this Positive Adjective Checklist to use daily.
Download it, print it, and put it on your fridge.
Use it the next time you feel a disagreement brewing. Instead of telling your spouse what they’re doing wrong, you can say things like: “Let’s work on this together” or “Can we talk about this tonight?”
Using words like “we” and “us” instead of “you” will avoid a knee-jerk defensive response.
Forward this Marriage Focus Blog Post to your partner to share these tips and tools! You can also say, “You’re great at this,” or “Thank you for already doing this!” That’s a deposit in your relationship’s emotional bank account.
