6 Ways To Master Challenges ?
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hallenges make us grow. One of the things my husband and I love doing is reflecting on our early years of marriage. The mistakes we made, the things that seemed so BIG at the time, and how far we’ve come along.
Just like relationships, a sapling grows big and strong not in spite of storms and winds, but because of them. Resistance and adversity make our relationships resilient.
Let’s be honest it’s not like we want to invite drama into our lives. But some disagreements are healthy. Especially when you have the right tools.
In every healthy relationship, there are going to be trials. You will experience illness, loss, and other challenges. Allah says He will test us in our health, relationships, and possessions.
Here are six tips for making your tests work to strengthen the bonds of love and understanding in your marriage, not hurt it!
- Keep the faith – When you encounter hard times, trust your partner respects you and your feelings. Remember you both have each other’s best interests at heart.
- Choose the right moment – Schedule a conversation if needed! Make sure you can both invest attention in finding solutions to a difficult issue.
- Keep it out of the bedroom – Instead of negative energy in your sleeping area, choose another quiet place in the house to address challenges. The bedroom should remain a place of calm and rest.
- Don’t Get Angry – Only discuss challenges when you can be calm and articulate. If you feel things are getting heated, follow the Sunnah: sit down, have a glass of water and make wu’du to calm down.
- Stay focused on solutions – If a minor disagreement spirals into an argument about everything, your chances of solving the original issue are slim. Always guide the conversation back to the issue at hand.
- Discuss strategies in advance – Share this email with your partner so you’re both ready to deal with life before things come up.
Happy relationships are not disagreement-free. What makes a relationship survive is not the absence of hardships. It’s the presence of healthy repair strategies that infuse the partnership with love and respect.
